One person remains unchanged!!!

Today’s day reminds me of the day when I became a Mother. Natural pains started at about 4 in the morning, was taken to the hospital at 9.30 am…… all the process went in vain when Dr advised for the Cesar. Soon as I was shifted to O.T. Here in OT I felt quite safe coz I knew no more pains would be borne by me now.

At 2.09 pm I delivered a baby boy. I dint care what was his gender but the first thought came was Ah! I m relaxed and free now. The next moment I saw him. “WoW!!! I have a cute little baby” I was a mother then. The bestest feeling…Alas Men are devoid of such feeling.

Everyone outside the O.T. was so much anxious to know the result. As soon as the Dr came outside every one asked her, “How is the Baby?” “Is he a boy or a girl?” “Whom he looks like?” and similar questions like any one would ask.

But there was the only person whose first question was, “How is the mother?”














It was my AAI (mother)….....



PS-the nurse came to me and told all this. She said she could recognize instantly who my mother was, when she heard this question…..:-)



FEW PICS SHARED: the bond of child and mother should remain always..........(A wish to GOD)

At the end their is a famous line in Marathi......and has got a lot of meaning ----

"Bala Hoyu kashi me utarayi, Tujhya mule me Jhale aai"

Meaning - Child how would I pay back the debt to you, because of you I have become a mother

ANSWER - IS this A Man's World?

Few days before I asked you all a question, “Is this a Man’s world?”

The question comes to me many times.

Basanti, my maid, married a man of her choice, but soon her husband left her for another woman, cheat fully acquiring her property and transferring it to the other lady. Basanti was left alone; she was neither accepted by her family nor by her in-laws. And the real man behind this all, was having fun, with the new woman and the property. Society dint wish to raise any questions against him. But definitely looked at our maid with dubious, and hateful eyes……………This is my first question……Y is a woman treated like this, when her husband leaves her?

There are three girls living in my neighborhood. One of them got married few months before. All the sisters have pleasing personalities, having knowledge in every household activity, in stitching, knitting, etc (all those basic girly things. which are commonly asked at the time of marriage). I have invited them many times at my home, but they never turn up. They say they are afraid of their brother. He doesn’t like his sisters to step out of home. I m not blaming the brother, but I question the mentality. Whether he is afraid of the outside world? Or he just wants to make a point that he, as a man should be always asked before any move of his family members.

I am not planning a second baby right now, but if by chance it happens I wish to have a girl…don’t assume I have a boy so I am saying this…but yes by my all will, I would like to have a girl…… There are many friends of mine who are doing various therapies to have a male child…. They follow Chinese calendar, follow diet chart… follow some kinda Guruji who give them the various kind of dates on which they should plan…and what not….The only purpose is to have a boy. All my friends come from educated, well to do family but crave for a male member still remains in the society. The elder’s pressure is the most common factor. The reason being just one….. ‘Vansh ka naam’ …who will continue their name after their death?? Is it a good reason?…I doubt…but I know the result of this…..Female infanticide!!! Shameful……….

Society-people-are no less than a Ravan for girls these days. If a girl comes late in the home they all worry; they say it’s not good for a girl to stay out at odd times. If we see the other side of the coin, the society must understand that rather than restricting a girl they should create such environment and such space that a girl should roam freely. A boy must be imparted education on this. If a woman is supposed to take care of home, then a man should be held responsible outside home. A girl should feel safe when she moves out. But the opposite happens, people restrict her and again the vicious circle of unsafe world exists. Isn’t it??

Few days before I saw an Ad on TV where a girl comes for an interview in an office, and the man sitting, gets up and walks out of the office….the punch line says- ‘life ka har signal pakdo’…..What does this mean? Can’t a girl get the job on her strengths?….Y should we always believe that she is only credited on her looks…..? ? Is it not underestimating her capabilities? Or else compelling her to go beyond the ethics? Y?

Even if we make our heart believe that it’s a world of equality….the truth remains the same……. And truth is bitter…………….

PS - Guys – But it will not be the same forever………………..

Women --- Love yourself for being YOU

From the past few days, I have been thinking that why a girl/woman is so much praised in a song. This question came to me by my friend long time back & I could only say, "that’s because she likes that". Simple.... A girl feels happy when she is appreciated for her looks, features, work...etc. Isn't it girls???

But really does these flattery verses softens a girl’s heart towards the boy? What say? I believe yes they do to an extent, but the genuinity and sincerity must be reflected...

Take for eg: -A song of Ghulam which got so much popular amongst the road side Romeos...and the girls got disgusted.
But the song originally, is so nice and simple. Here I say the feeling and genuinity of the person devoting is very important.



Women have always been admired and have always been praised for their various qualities. In poetries, in stories, in articles etc, but here I would only discuss girl/women through the eyes of the lyricist/singers………….as lyricist write these beautiful verses and singers sing it through their soul....
From the era of K.L. Sehgal to the era of Shankar Mahadevan….A girl has been compared with numerous things. Let us check out, the songs coz which the GOD considers himself to be a Proud Creator of - WOMAN.....



Few songs through which “she” is praised for her:
Face:
Chaudhavi ka chaand ho……
Meine poocha chaand se ki dekha hai kahin, mere chand sa hasin……
Chaand mera dil, chandni ho tum
Yeh chaand sa roshan chehra……julfon ka rang sunehra…..
Teri pyari pyari surat ko……….
Ek ladki ko dekha toh aisa laga……
Teri husn ki kya tariff karu…..
Phoolon sa chehra tera……
Tum kitni khoobsurat ho….yeh mere dil se poocho….
Chaand si mehbooba ho meri kabaisa meine socha tha……
Tu roop ki rani …….


Eyes:
Pehli nazar mein kaisa jadoo kar diya……
Jeevan se bhari teri ankhen……………
Yeh jheel si neeli ankhen…koi raaj hai inme gehra…taarif karu kya uski…
Yeh kali kali ankhen………………………
Do naina mataware tihare,,,humpe jurum karee…….
Surili ankhiyon wale…..suna hai teri ankhiyon se…..
Teri ankhon ke siwa duniya mein rakha kya hia…..
Rang bhare badal se, tere nainon ke kajal se…..
Kajare kajrare, teri kali kali ankhen….
Janeman janeman tere do nayan..chori chori leke gaye dekho mera mun…
Jadoo tera badan……
Ankhen teri kitni haseen…dekh ke inko…..meh kho gaya hun..

Accessories:
Chudi nahi yeh mera dil hai……..
Odhli chunariya meine tere naam ki…………
Teri bindiya re…….

Badan pe sitare lapete hue....

Looks:
Masakali, masakali...ud matakali…
Patli kamar chalka ke..nagin si balkha ke…
Aye gulbadan…fulon ki mehek…
Kya khoob lagti ho..badi sundar dikhti ho…
Chandan sa badan…chanchal chitwan….

Dream girl kisi shayar ki ghajal...

She’s got the look…..

Smile:
Madhyam madhyam teri gili hansi…….
Tum pass aye…yun muskuraye…..

Lips:
Hoth Rasile tere hoth rasile
Choo lene do najuk hothon ko…..

Hothon se choo lo tum....

Hair:
Yeh reshmi Julfein…..yeh sharbati ankhen……
Jhonka hawa ka aaj bhi……
Khulti julfon ne sikhayi mausmao ko shayari……(hosh walon…)

Adaaa:
Uff…teri ada…..
Ladki hai kya ..re baba…iski ada..re baba…

Walk:
Tauba yeh matwali chaal…….jhook jaye phoolon ki daal..

Kaan mein jhoomka..chaal mein thumka.....

For everything:

Tujhme rab dikhta hia yaara mein kya karu…..
Bakhuda tumhi ho….
Tum ho toh....gata hai dil…….
Chhoo kar mere mun ko kiya tune kya ishara…
Tujhe dekha toh yeh jana sanam…
Everything I do ..i do it for you…
Tum aa gaye ho noor aa gaya hai…
Dil ibadat kar raha hai….
Tumse acha kaun hai….
Rehna tu hai jaise tu….
Tumse mil ke ….aisa laga …..
Khwab ho tum ya koi haqqeeqat…

(PS-this is for all you girls who want to experience immense pleasure of getting a birth of girl; and, to all boys who want their girls to be always happy) – And yes if you can add any to the list...you are most welcome......