Chamatkaar/Shraddha Vs Science......

“Chamatkaar” - News 1 – “Jwala Devi prakat hui Anoopshahar mein”…. My MIL called me to watch this news when she heard it on Television. She was too excited to show me this “Chamatkaar”. The news informed that, fire is blazing from 9 different parts, near the river Ganga in Anoopshahar. One could even notice the bubbles coming within the river. The coincidence is that this incident has been taking place since the day Navratri started and only 9 `places have got fire. The reason of this occurrence is unknown to all. People believe that this is the chamatkar of Jwala Devi. The saints are going extreme with this kind of natural chemical phenomenon, naming it as a Devi’s magic.

Q1. How many of you believe that this is the Chamatkaar?
Q2. How many have the curiosity to know the reason? (Like I have)
Q3. Can you provide the logic for this?
Q4. How will you rate the education of our society?

Chamatkaar” - News 2 – Case of Itarsi – People are sticking coins in this temple. It is believed that if anyone’s coin gets stuck on the walls, then ones wishes would be accepted. And if it doesn’t then your wishes will be deprived. The specialists say that it is due to the stickiness of the wall that the coins are getting pasted. But the people have closed eyes, blindly go on sticking the rupee One coin.

Q1. Is/n’t this called “andhi Shraddha”?
Q2. Such incidents make them follow the ritual. Why one is not interested to know the right scene?

Astha Ya Pagalpan - News 2 – (i) A girl of fifteen years old. Her palm is acting like a Diya. Since five days she has been holding the burning wick in her hands and constantly stimulating it with Ghee. She says this is the Diya of Devi Maa, And she will never let it blow off for the whole 9 days. Last year too she did the same for 9 days. People say she is blessed by the Mata.

(ii) One man has grown jowar on his whole body. I saw this man sleeping in a Temple. And all over his body the grown up jowar plants could be seen. This man neither eats nor drinks for the whole 9 days.

Q1. Are/n’t they crazy?
Q2. Do you believe in such Bhakti?
Q3. In first case, If she thinks it was Devi’s Diya, then why was she providing Ghee to it?…(devi ka diya waise bhi jalta hi)
Q4. What is the purpose?

PS – I am not offending any ones religious sentiments…..just beg them to find out answers rather than just blindly following the convention.
And hey would also like to know …what you guys would like to add on ..and how you react to all these…..

Happy Navrtra….

Question?

Questions do come in my mind usually.............this time again...I pass on this question to you all...a very simple question.

Yesterday it popped up in my mind and I got confused...coz till now what I had learnt and yesterday what I experienced was quite different ----

The word "Sanskaar" came to my mind.....I ask you all -

1. What is meant by the above word?

2. How many features does it comprises?

3. Which is the most significant point in it?

4. Any missing point - does it mean Non - Sanskari? or else who can be called that?

If you want to state any of the live examples...kindly do that..it would be helpful for me to understand it more..

hope to get nice answers on it .....so start scratching your head and provide some understandable answers :)

Tag!!!

TAG time............This Tag was passed on to me by Raj & Tavish....Me required to list seven things about me which I think or may be in real, my fellow readers don't know about me...
Its very hard for me to think about the list of the unknowns to all you guys….as I m not in the state of writing these days…call it any BLOCK….but still I would like to come out of this net and will try to list out seven things regarding me…

1) I am a mixed creature….neither shy nor extrovert…..first meeting- I will be less talkative…..few more, you can find me over extrovert…I have an adaptable nature…can find myself comfortable in every situation…I show my emotions to very close ones…rest can find me cold….I don’t regard any situation to be tough…I have a cool mind…but I get upset when others get depressed…

2) I love to find beauty in nature…children….talks…deeds…In my child hood days…I used to sing songs in the garden…and those songs used to be of my own imagination….using the words like ‘titli, akash, phool, etc…..

3) I still have that singing attitude in me….I am not a singer….but I love to sing….but while writing this one question popped in my mind…that I sing everywhere except bathroom…..believe me I am a bathroom singer…..but I have never tried my talent there….hmm will think on that…

4) I am a thinker….my sir used to say ..Rohini ..you have beautiful imagination…I don’t know what they meant still…..but yes I have a thinking mind…always finding a topic to think on…...if I am at the right place, I can be creative..,,,,otherwise dull…..I don’t like pressure….A free position I always aim for.

5) I love traveling…..I am always ready to hop at any corner of the world…I get too excited even with a single thought of outing comes in anyone’s mind….My minds starts making plans ..like dress, food, shopping and many more…and yes I like staying in the company...but for atleast one hour od privacy I need....

6)I love taking pictures…..If I have camera in my hand …I take any sort of pics…..even with the Mobile…and my husband (bechara) keeps on deleting the objectionable/uninteresting pics…but hey I don’t click bad ones…though not the professional one.

7) My hands always work….if I get anything in my hand…that thing is definitely in trouble/it has to be kept in motion.…during school days……while listening the lecture ….I used to write my name or draw pictures with pen/pencil ..…if I would catch eraser…..then I used to grind it or bend till the end..….I too have the habit of rolling the paper with my fingers all the time…though with time these things have reduced…

Hmm…over with the seven things…..Guys let me tell you…I was very unsure, on the tag…the prob was I had done something like this before too......there I had mentioned many points…so I had to bring out more from within….which shouldn’t have had matched at all with the previous ones…For this tag I asked few of my close ones…let me tell you what they felt….

Mother – Always ready to help, nice at heart, good imagination, easy go getter, stubborn, no tit for tat attitude, doesn’t like interference of any sort in my activities….

Father – maintaining PR, always communicate with the people, does what she want to…....although takes advices from others…

Brother – (now this is interesting) Over emotional, have extra sense but no common sense J , cant stand violence..but is violent (thnx Bro for showing my dark face..)

Husband – he say…I m simple and subtle….and yes nautanki tooo….its contradictory too…but as the first point says… ..I am a mixture…Bhel puri …khatii mithi…

Ufff….I have listed many points…not abiding with the fact that I had to mention only seven…whatever came in mind…...just listed….the tag helped me to know more of myself…..thnx to both, Tavish and Raj…for telling others, one requires to know about it…self scrutiny….

Now the main part...I pass this Tag to Jack Sir, BS, Nu, Nipun, Gaurav & Karan
Complete the tag when feel like....

ANSWER - IS this A Man's World?

Few days before I asked you all a question, “Is this a Man’s world?”

The question comes to me many times.

Basanti, my maid, married a man of her choice, but soon her husband left her for another woman, cheat fully acquiring her property and transferring it to the other lady. Basanti was left alone; she was neither accepted by her family nor by her in-laws. And the real man behind this all, was having fun, with the new woman and the property. Society dint wish to raise any questions against him. But definitely looked at our maid with dubious, and hateful eyes……………This is my first question……Y is a woman treated like this, when her husband leaves her?

There are three girls living in my neighborhood. One of them got married few months before. All the sisters have pleasing personalities, having knowledge in every household activity, in stitching, knitting, etc (all those basic girly things. which are commonly asked at the time of marriage). I have invited them many times at my home, but they never turn up. They say they are afraid of their brother. He doesn’t like his sisters to step out of home. I m not blaming the brother, but I question the mentality. Whether he is afraid of the outside world? Or he just wants to make a point that he, as a man should be always asked before any move of his family members.

I am not planning a second baby right now, but if by chance it happens I wish to have a girl…don’t assume I have a boy so I am saying this…but yes by my all will, I would like to have a girl…… There are many friends of mine who are doing various therapies to have a male child…. They follow Chinese calendar, follow diet chart… follow some kinda Guruji who give them the various kind of dates on which they should plan…and what not….The only purpose is to have a boy. All my friends come from educated, well to do family but crave for a male member still remains in the society. The elder’s pressure is the most common factor. The reason being just one….. ‘Vansh ka naam’ …who will continue their name after their death?? Is it a good reason?…I doubt…but I know the result of this…..Female infanticide!!! Shameful……….

Society-people-are no less than a Ravan for girls these days. If a girl comes late in the home they all worry; they say it’s not good for a girl to stay out at odd times. If we see the other side of the coin, the society must understand that rather than restricting a girl they should create such environment and such space that a girl should roam freely. A boy must be imparted education on this. If a woman is supposed to take care of home, then a man should be held responsible outside home. A girl should feel safe when she moves out. But the opposite happens, people restrict her and again the vicious circle of unsafe world exists. Isn’t it??

Few days before I saw an Ad on TV where a girl comes for an interview in an office, and the man sitting, gets up and walks out of the office….the punch line says- ‘life ka har signal pakdo’…..What does this mean? Can’t a girl get the job on her strengths?….Y should we always believe that she is only credited on her looks…..? ? Is it not underestimating her capabilities? Or else compelling her to go beyond the ethics? Y?

Even if we make our heart believe that it’s a world of equality….the truth remains the same……. And truth is bitter…………….

PS - Guys – But it will not be the same forever………………..

Blog - A Social Networking Site ??

Is Blogger a site where you jot down your thoughts, experiences, judgments, conclusions, and various other things? Or, it is more of a Social Networking Site?

I joined this Blog site because I liked the thought of spilling my thoughts over net…to unlock my mind, to find creativity, to think on something, to analyze, and to write my own answers to the emerged questions on any damn topic. Before coming in to this line, I read many beautiful posts, poetries, saw amazing camera shot pictures, art, etc….I found it really addictive, and felt that I should also start writing or atleast try to write. Not coz I love writing, but because I wanted to run my mind on certain things which I found interesting. My mind was getting stuck at the daily home routine. There was no creativity, no imagination, no thinking process involved in my set activities.

I felt the NEED of change. I was guided by my fellow blogger Nu and then in Dec, 2009 I started feeling the change. From then I have started noticing things more minutely than before. In mind there is now always something running. Need not necessarily be an important topic or may be nothing useful…but I write what I feel like…. Simple…

Blog GAVE me; pleasure, sense of satisfaction, crave of creativeness, probing for the logic, liberty of thoughts, media through which I can pay gratitude, sometimes criticize, and sometimes confess.

I am HAPPY, writing post every week.

But then the QUESTION arises, whether with the time the importance of writing a post gets a back seat and move towards making a social network…creating friends….desire of having a long list of followers???? Every morning logging in to see the current state of the Blog…then matching with the expectations…sometimes writing a post of other’s taste rather than selves…Just to make desirable to others….I have read few blogs, where they write that they don’t know the reason of their writing….few say, they don’t have followers then what’s the use of blogging? Some seam to cheat…some seem to be just pass their time….and some writing the real senti, romantic stories,, which sometimes make me feel …all is made up…

My QUESTION, Are we really Honest in writing the post?? Do we fake sometime?? Does our motive of writing changes, which was initially, purely the satisfaction of our soul?

Karm kiye ja, Fal ki chinta mat kar ye insaan………this famous teaching in Bhagwat Gita…do we really follow it??? Before and after we always imagine of the results and returns in any form….don’t we?

In the case of Blogging too…one feels of recognition, one feels to share and spread one thoughts…..so on………..what’s your take on this? Has your writing been effected, and how? Do you think you are original? Do you feel to make any more changes??...do spill your thoughts…...Be honest/////////////////

Women --- Love yourself for being YOU

From the past few days, I have been thinking that why a girl/woman is so much praised in a song. This question came to me by my friend long time back & I could only say, "that’s because she likes that". Simple.... A girl feels happy when she is appreciated for her looks, features, work...etc. Isn't it girls???

But really does these flattery verses softens a girl’s heart towards the boy? What say? I believe yes they do to an extent, but the genuinity and sincerity must be reflected...

Take for eg: -A song of Ghulam which got so much popular amongst the road side Romeos...and the girls got disgusted.
But the song originally, is so nice and simple. Here I say the feeling and genuinity of the person devoting is very important.



Women have always been admired and have always been praised for their various qualities. In poetries, in stories, in articles etc, but here I would only discuss girl/women through the eyes of the lyricist/singers………….as lyricist write these beautiful verses and singers sing it through their soul....
From the era of K.L. Sehgal to the era of Shankar Mahadevan….A girl has been compared with numerous things. Let us check out, the songs coz which the GOD considers himself to be a Proud Creator of - WOMAN.....



Few songs through which “she” is praised for her:
Face:
Chaudhavi ka chaand ho……
Meine poocha chaand se ki dekha hai kahin, mere chand sa hasin……
Chaand mera dil, chandni ho tum
Yeh chaand sa roshan chehra……julfon ka rang sunehra…..
Teri pyari pyari surat ko……….
Ek ladki ko dekha toh aisa laga……
Teri husn ki kya tariff karu…..
Phoolon sa chehra tera……
Tum kitni khoobsurat ho….yeh mere dil se poocho….
Chaand si mehbooba ho meri kabaisa meine socha tha……
Tu roop ki rani …….


Eyes:
Pehli nazar mein kaisa jadoo kar diya……
Jeevan se bhari teri ankhen……………
Yeh jheel si neeli ankhen…koi raaj hai inme gehra…taarif karu kya uski…
Yeh kali kali ankhen………………………
Do naina mataware tihare,,,humpe jurum karee…….
Surili ankhiyon wale…..suna hai teri ankhiyon se…..
Teri ankhon ke siwa duniya mein rakha kya hia…..
Rang bhare badal se, tere nainon ke kajal se…..
Kajare kajrare, teri kali kali ankhen….
Janeman janeman tere do nayan..chori chori leke gaye dekho mera mun…
Jadoo tera badan……
Ankhen teri kitni haseen…dekh ke inko…..meh kho gaya hun..

Accessories:
Chudi nahi yeh mera dil hai……..
Odhli chunariya meine tere naam ki…………
Teri bindiya re…….

Badan pe sitare lapete hue....

Looks:
Masakali, masakali...ud matakali…
Patli kamar chalka ke..nagin si balkha ke…
Aye gulbadan…fulon ki mehek…
Kya khoob lagti ho..badi sundar dikhti ho…
Chandan sa badan…chanchal chitwan….

Dream girl kisi shayar ki ghajal...

She’s got the look…..

Smile:
Madhyam madhyam teri gili hansi…….
Tum pass aye…yun muskuraye…..

Lips:
Hoth Rasile tere hoth rasile
Choo lene do najuk hothon ko…..

Hothon se choo lo tum....

Hair:
Yeh reshmi Julfein…..yeh sharbati ankhen……
Jhonka hawa ka aaj bhi……
Khulti julfon ne sikhayi mausmao ko shayari……(hosh walon…)

Adaaa:
Uff…teri ada…..
Ladki hai kya ..re baba…iski ada..re baba…

Walk:
Tauba yeh matwali chaal…….jhook jaye phoolon ki daal..

Kaan mein jhoomka..chaal mein thumka.....

For everything:

Tujhme rab dikhta hia yaara mein kya karu…..
Bakhuda tumhi ho….
Tum ho toh....gata hai dil…….
Chhoo kar mere mun ko kiya tune kya ishara…
Tujhe dekha toh yeh jana sanam…
Everything I do ..i do it for you…
Tum aa gaye ho noor aa gaya hai…
Dil ibadat kar raha hai….
Tumse acha kaun hai….
Rehna tu hai jaise tu….
Tumse mil ke ….aisa laga …..
Khwab ho tum ya koi haqqeeqat…

(PS-this is for all you girls who want to experience immense pleasure of getting a birth of girl; and, to all boys who want their girls to be always happy) – And yes if you can add any to the list...you are most welcome......

3 Idiots.....

I know I am late in this, still wanted to share the movie "3 Idiots" with you all...with the great hype and positive reviews, I and my hubby went to watch it in the hall, after having anxiously waited for the tickets for about 3 weeks....

We both went there with very high spirits and enthusiasm....and were very happy thinking its good to be late than never...It was Thursday, yet the hall was crowded....I am not used of seeing such a huge crowd turning up for any movie in the place like Bhilai....and that also during weekdays. But it was nice realising that we were not the only one who were deprived from watching the movie earlier..

Ok now coming to movie...My first opinion - it's a great movie with a great theme...I liked everyone's performance...and even my sweet Kareena's too....She looks so cute in those specs.....I know many of you don't like her but I find her very admirable....every actor has ended up doing their roles perfectly. It has a good humor in between. But unfortunately, at the end of the film there is no solid scene which occupies my mind...:-(

Yes, I know that there was a serious issue being dictated in it....but in bits and parts.....I question when will this Reel life going to meet the Real life.

My son, since the time of his birth, is being told that he has to take care of the business of his father. His future is pre-thought and pre-decided without his prior consent. Many a times I have refused the idea, saying ,"no, he will do whatever he wishes to do" but everytime I got the same response "then who will take care of all these things", "he has to succeed his father"...hmmmm....well aren't we cutting his freedom of thoughts and actions....this is not only in our case but many....still white collared jobs are the favourite...why do we act like Boss...I still can't forget when one of my aquaintace tried to commit suicide....as her father wanted her to become CA, and she was so much inclined towards Arts.....(Is Suicide an eye opener for parents?)

Secondly, the system in which we are studying...we are mainly concerned with the other's marks, rather than ourselves....we are more anxious in knowing what the other guy is doing, whether he is earning more than me?....whether he has a car?, whether he travels by plane? etc.....such issues are so much in our mind that we just waste 60% of our times worrying the same....

I remember once I was asked, that why are we opening a school, when you have everything?? I never had thought this question would ever be put to me...Well, its just that we already have a school and now we are shifting the same into a new big building....not because we have nothing but to maintain or infcat raise the present level of living....every person wants to be occupied in some or the other way...and I am liking it :-) but yes we all are much more worried with the success of the school rather than enjoying this state....but I think it's a human nature...had we not been thinking of this threat , it would have been unnatural condition..right...??

Well coming to the movie...:-) (which I feel I had drifted from it a little)...Simple - It couldnt take my heart away.....It was just like any other movie(hmm.....can say little better)....yes the feel was good....but sorry all, did'nt impress me ...... I wanted something extra from the whole movie...I was waiting for that extra punch for the whole 3 hrs....but was disapointed a little....You know I am still telling my heart...to feel good for the movie...but my mind is not letting me feel that......I missed that tickel in my bones .......and this was my Second Opinion.