Finding A Partner

Without making a effort can anyone find a partner for self?

Baaton se hi toh baat banti hia ..hai na

My brother, for whom we are looking for a perfect bride, is a Doctor of 30 years of age. We have registered his name under many marriage bureaus. We keep on looking the desirable matches and often contact them. But to tell you, this match finding is such a tiresome job. We have got many good proposals, but I don’t understand why these proposals are in the waiting list. (You guys, I tell you take so much time in thinking...decision toh door ki baat). But may be, sometimes we find the Kundli unsuitable and sometimes the girl. Or may be the right match hasn’t arrived. Here I am talking about the arrange marriage as he has not yet found anyoneon his own...atleast I am unaware of it..)

My bro who is running his own clinic needs a working partner who should understand him and his family (such a common line…hai na) he needs a good looking, well qualified girl. (Obviously which man doesn’t?) The problem is, the one which my parents choose, he doesn’t like her. And vice versa. :-( Such a fed-up situation. Why cant a god give a sign that yes yes yes….he/she is the only one? (koi flower should fall in her palms or into her chunni) Then this unnecessary search time would be reduced. Simple. waise bhi it's said "marriages are made in heaven"...then dear God just once you convey the signal and rest all will be taken care by us. But Contrary to the above Bold, italic line their is one more line to think upon "no pain no gain" ( who wrote all this, such an anti-quotes)...So again the same process.....continues....:-)

But seriously guys I am thinking of the day when my bhabhi will come and I will sit with her, talk to her, do something for her, help her, go shopping with her, play with my nephew and niece(well long time for that…but I can think,,right ). I am looking forward to that wonderful day of celebrations and enjoyment.

Hope for the best match…..All the Best Bro!!!!!!!!!!!

I hope you get the world’s best girl….and I too get the world’s best bhabhi. :-))))))))))))

Marriage........ No....Yes.....YES!!!!

In the past few months I have seen boys and girls getting skeptical about marriage. In recent conversation with one of my friend, I found that he is very scared to lose his freedom and space after tying a knot. I tried to make him understand that, this is a myth and is not true.

Unfortunately, it’s not him only who has this misconception but many others too. Girls are too concerned with their freedom. They feel they will have to sacrifice their work, their money and their independence just for the sake of marriage.

Yes, it’s true that there is a cut on your freedom, but why we should think the negative part of it. There are many good things that come in the package called - Marriage. In these 4.5 yrs of my marriage I have come across lots of bad and good. Many times I have bowed down and many times my partner has sacrificed.

G(husband) has given me my freedom and I have given him his space. But yes many times we have fights but which relation doesn’t have? But at the end of the day we smile and forget about the negativity amongst us. After all what we want in the old age; a company, a good partner, a good support which one can expect through marriage.

Yes, many a times I have thought I should not have got married, as I missed the entire fun all which I had earlier. But can’t forget the fun which is part of my life now. It’s said past is past and live the present. Why to think about the past when you are still enjoying. I am fortunate to get the good in my life…good background and good family and good husband and in-laws.

There are many good things beyond the dark side of marriage. But yes till the time one gets a good and suitable prospect, one can enjoy one's so called freedom. But never have negative feelings for marriage. Believe me it’s not that bad. And yes Marriages are made in heaven but maintenance must be done on earth.