Wednesday, April 28, 2010

ANSWER - IS this A Man's World?


Few days before I asked you all a question, “Is this a Man’s world?”

The question comes to me many times.


Basanti, my maid, married a man of her choice, but soon her husband left her for another woman, cheat fully acquiring her property and transferring it to the other lady. Basanti was left alone; she was neither accepted by her family nor by her in-laws. And the real man behind this all, was having fun, with the new woman and the property. Society dint wish to raise any questions against him. But definitely looked at our maid with dubious, and hateful eyes……………This is my first question……Y is a woman treated like this, when her husband leaves her?

There are three girls living in my neighborhood. One of them got married few months before. All the sisters have pleasing personalities, having knowledge in every household activity, in stitching, knitting, etc (all those basic girly things. which are commonly asked at the time of marriage). I have invited them many times at my home, but they never turn up. They say they are afraid of their brother. He doesn’t like his sisters to step out of home. I m not blaming the brother, but I question the mentality. Whether he is afraid of the outside world? Or he just wants to make a point that he, as a man should be always asked before any move of his family members.

I am not planning a second baby right now, but if by chance it happens I wish to have a girl…don’t assume I have a boy so I am saying this…but yes by my all will, I would like to have a girl…… There are many friends of mine who are doing various therapies to have a male child…. They follow Chinese calendar, follow diet chart… follow some kinda Guruji who give them the various kind of dates on which they should plan…and what not….The only purpose is to have a boy. All my friends come from educated, well to do family but crave for a male member still remains in the society. The elder’s pressure is the most common factor. The reason being just one….. ‘Vansh ka naam’ …who will continue their name after their death?? Is it a good reason?…I doubt…but I know the result of this…..Female infanticide!!! Shameful……….

Society-people-are no less than a Ravan for girls these days. If a girl comes late in the home they all worry; they say it’s not good for a girl to stay out at odd times. If we see the other side of the coin, the society must understand that rather than restricting a girl they should create such environment and such space that a girl should roam freely. A boy must be imparted education on this. If a woman is supposed to take care of home, then a man should be held responsible outside home. A girl should feel safe when she moves out. But the opposite happens, people restrict her and again the vicious circle of unsafe world exists. Isn’t it??

Few days before I saw an Ad on TV where a girl comes for an interview in an office, and the man sitting, gets up and walks out of the office….the punch line says- ‘life ka har signal pakdo’…..What does this mean? Can’t a girl get the job on her strengths?….Y should we always believe that she is only credited on her looks…..? ? Is it not underestimating her capabilities? Or else compelling her to go beyond the ethics? Y?

Even if we make our heart believe that it’s a world of equality….the truth remains the same……. And truth is bitter…………….

PS - Guys – But it will not be the same forever………………..

Tuesday, April 20, 2010

What It Took To Be An Anarkali...??

Theme Party : Salim - Anarkali Date : 15 April 2010

I got an invitation few days before on a theme party. I had to dress up like Anarkali, and my husband had to be Salim….listening this, I was quite confused as I had never attended any such party before…but liked the concept…
Today I will list all the necessities of Anarkali......What took me to be an Anarkali…?...

Can you tell whom we think when the word Anarakali is called? Madhubala…right? We think of her dress, her accessories, her style, her dance, and the famous song….Jab Pyaar kiya toh darna kya….

=The first thing I selected was an Anarkali dress, which I had in my wardrobe. But there was still a long way to look like her.

=Next was choosing my Salim’s outfit….It was not that tough though. I finalized his Sherwani and dupatta… which he agreed on wearing….

=What more needed?…….I looked at myself…My nails were without colour....To tell you all, I hardly use nail paint…coz of which all the colours I had bought 4yrs ago during my marriage, got dried. So had to borrow it from MIL. But the colours she had, were not of my taste. All were too dark. But I tried to settle with the maroon colour (no choice). Applied it on my nails. That night when I went to chemist, I noticed that everyone was staring at my dark coloured nails…I was so embarrassed that immediately I bought a light one and made up my nails with that.

= As I changed my dress, I thought of wearing chunni over my head….pierced it with pins unheartedly….(sry dear chunni)

= My forehead was bare, so thought of putting ‘Maang Tika’….. But I dint have it, so I made it through my necklace……My ankels were done by the beautiful anklets… Wore antique bangels..

= The missing factor was ‘Jutis’… I dint have the matching Jutis…so had to wear sandals only

In all this process, one question came in my mind. While going out I always take one napkin for Neil… looking at the cotton napkin…. thought Were in those days, napkins were made of Resham (silk)?

Now the Anarkali was so much inside me that while entering in the party also, instead of waving Hi…I did Adab to everyone…..for the whole party we addressed each one with Anarkali’s and Salim’s name…had fun dacing on the song of Mughal-e-Azam..


At the end we got the gift of the best dressed couple.....my mehnat paid off.....

I felt like I was in that old era and trust me …For the period of 2-3 hrs we enjoyed being Salim and Anarkali...........................Dress changes one’s attitude…I realized it that day…....…

Friday, April 16, 2010

LoveD it!!!!!!

NU...... A big smile and a Hugs to you...thnx girl for appreciating the efforts of mine.... getting myself an award makes me feel HAPPY.....thnx to all lovely readers who read and pass on their views....ab bas...now the award which i got is.....Look down ......


Nice na.....i kn... I love cakes Nu....thnx for not only one but three cakes...thaannnkkkuuuuu.....

And now the work part,,,...I have been asked to write three good things in me....(matlab .... dnt think i m being Muh miya mitthu guys.....but i have been asked to do it/..) Well its good also in a sense....there are many sitting outside to criticize you....but the only one who knows yourself better is YOU.....so here are my three good qualities.....(waise toh kai hai....but listing just three...:-( )


> When somebody looks at someone, the first thing you notice is ......???? Yes looks......I am thankfull to God, nature, and parents coz of which I look good...Yes, I am beautifull....and thnx that i dont need put lot of lotions etc took look nice.....(kharcha thoda kam hota hai G ka, in a way I do not trouble my husband)

>> After crossing the first level, ie, looks, one finds me nice and lovely in nature, in talks....I know people dont neglect my presence.....a fun loving party types....More so, I m what I M....nobody else resides in me.....

>>> Dont understnd how do people lie.....I am bad at it...i dont kn whether it is good trait or bad..but I cant....:-) but i have been told its good so mentioned here....


Rest You can visit Varsh Blog to know more good thigns about me....as what she has written is just like me....taking the liberty of mentioning more nice qualities in me :-)


Another thing I was asked to do is...One pic which I like the most is.......hmm there are many but at the point it is.....Look down again .....



Now Five people I want to pass on this award and the tag are....
Nipun, Gaurav Agrawal, Jack Sir, Anju Gandhi, and BS
CONGRATULATIONS you all people......really love reading ur posts.....so conitnue with this tag too.....:-)
PS- Jack sir, Nipun.....ur one more tag pending.......add this one too in ur list.....

Sunday, April 11, 2010

Question And Answers.....


Ye kaun aya…roshan ho gayi, ??
Badshah O Badshah…..

Dil kya kare jab kisi ko kisi se pyaar ho jaye?
Sab rishte naate hans ke tod du..bas tujhse dil ka rishta jod lu….

Kaisa lagta hai .????
aiiisa lagta hai, koi mera hone ko hai……

Kya yahi pyaar hai???
Dil vil pyaar vyaar , mein kya janu re…..


Yeh kya hua, kaise hua, kab hua, …??
Pyaar hua, ikraar hua hai….

Jane kya tune kahi?
Humko sirf tumse pyaar hia…..

Dil kya kare jab kisi ko kisi se pyaar ho jaye?
Sab rishte naate hans ke tod du..bas tujhse dil ka rishta jod lu….

Kya tum mujhse pyaar karti ho….??
Kaise bataye kyu tujhko chahe, yaara bata na paye..

Kiska rasta dekhe, aye dil aye soudayi?
Mere khwabon mein jo aye…..

Jane kyo log pyaar karte hai….??
Koi na koi chahiye pyaar karne wala….

Khwab ho tum ya koi haqqeqat, kaun ho tum batlayo???
Bebo mein Bebo….

Kaise mujhe tum mil gayi.?
Raah mein unse mulakat ho gayi....

Kya tum mujhse pyaar karti ho??
Mujhe pyaar tumse nahi hai….nahi hai….

Kya kehta hai ye sawan??
Ab ke sajan sawan mein….


Aap yahan aye kis liye??
Mein aya hun le ke pyaar haathon mein

Kya se kya ho gaya??
Chor bajari do naino ki , pehle thi aadat jo hut gayi…

Acha toh hum chalte hia , fir kab miloge?
Dil jalon ka dil jala ke , kya milega dilruba…

Kya tumne hai keh diya?
Kehna hi kya ye nain ek anjaan se jo mile….

Aye kya bolti tu…??
Piya tu ab toh aaja…..aa..a..aa

Kahe ko roye..ee..ee???
Rula ke gaya sapna tera…..

Kis..kis..kisee pyar karu??

kiska hai yeh tumko intejaar mein hun na….

Tum bin jayu kahan?
Jaha mein jaati wahi chale ate ho,,,.

Najane kahan se ayi hai??
Dil walon ke dil ka karaar lutne, mein ayi hun UP Bihar lutne….

Kahe sataye aaja?
Jaaanee do na……

Lal duppate wali tera naam toh bata?
Mera naam hai Chameli………mein malan albeli..…..

Ankhon mein kya ji?
Kajara mohobat wala…...ankhiyon mein aisa dala…

Choli ke peeche kya kya hai?
Parde mein rehne do , parda na uthao, parda jo uth gaya to bhed khul jayega….

Are yeh toh bata, dekhta hai tu kya?
Teri jawanai badi mast mast hai…..

Najane kyuuu hota hia yu jindagi ke saath, ?
Yeh jindagi hai ek jua…kabhi haar hai kabhi jeet bhi

Kya hua ise kya hua?
Na tum jano na hum……

Kaun hai jo sapno mein aya?
Raat kali ek khwab mein ayi…….

Kya Karen kya na Karen?
Chupke se lag ja gale, raat ki chadar tale….

Kaun disa mein le ke chala re baturiya?
Chal chale apne ghar aye mere humsafar…

Haal kaisa hai janab ka?
Aye kaash ki hum hosh mein ab aane nap aye…….

Mein kyaa karu raam mujhe Buddha mil gaya?
Abhi toh mein jawan hun…….

Kahan chal diye?
Mein chali mein chali, dekho pyaar ki gali...

Tere mere beech mein kaisa hai yeh bandhan??
Yeh bandhan to pyaar ka bandhan hai..

Hum aapke hai kaun??
Mein tera totaa, tu meri maina….

Kya tumne hai keh diya?
Hum tum ek kamre mein band ho..aur chabhi kho jaye….

Chookar mere man ko , kiya tune kya ishara?
Janeman janeman tere do nayan chori chori le keg aye dekho mera mun…..

Kya hua tera vada?
Mere naseeb mein aye dost tera pyaar nahi..

Jane na najar, pehchane jigar , yeh kaun hai jo dil pe chaya??
Jadu hai tera hi jadu, jo mere dil pe chane laga…

>…………………over with my answers…..

Now the following are my questions to u all….plz do reply with ur own songs…..

Ye rishta kya kehlata hia??? (sometimes naming a ‘rishta’ can be avoided/difficult)

Kahan se aye badra?? (cyclone coming from Tamil Nadu)

Kis liye meine pyaar kiya? (Khali baitha tha,,,kuch toh karna tha…
….naukri nahi toh chokri sahi)

Jane kahan mera jigar gaya ji? (Go to hospital ….turant)

Yaad kiya dil ne kaha ho tum? (May be hospital…)
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Keep Singing......:-)

Friday, April 9, 2010

Seven Random Things

Varsha Dear you trapped me…for a week I have been thinking on this tag…what to write…..still thinking…I am still in the process …oh let me write now ( kahi athavala mala)--------
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If it’s a tag on me then I will start with me itself – I am a women just like any other, with many emotions….of love, hatred, jealousy, sacrifice, etc etc…I love myself, my family, my friends, my relatives,,,,,,,I always want to be connected with people….
In my school age I was very introvert…(hey Nu – do u rem?) but the graph surprisingly got down as my age got up…(inverse relationship u see).
I am a big foodie…(though not too much into cooking) but I like cooking for those who appreciate it…(but false praises ..No)..I am always ready to go out on dinners, parties, outing, traveling etc,,,,,it exictes me…(in a sense)…
Blogging has given a new dimension in my life. It has helped me in finding myself…
(Hey am I about to write all seven things in one point...hmm let me put the mark agn…)
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!! Enough of me ….now something about my family….I have a loving caring understanding husband…(enough praises for him as I cant say he is a typical Joru ka Ghulam, I wish he was), one son of 2.8 years old, and stay with my inlaws…by God’s grace I have got nice people around me…(ThnX God). My son, Neil, I love him….I beat him, I get angry on him… (becharaa….Mummy ka maara) but he loves me a lot..(I know…)…. Showered with Great unconditional love from mummy & peace loving papa …I have one good Badmash older brother too…He is Single but ready to Mingle….( u might be knwoing that)!!



!!! Enough of me and my family….it is said ki real tough life starts when you leave your college; when you move out from the nut shell and face the hardships of life….sometimes you meet the undesirable , ugly hearted people, (I don’t want to use any bad terms here)…but I am blessed that 90% of the people, I met in life were as good as me …hihihi….Sry I dint mean that ....but really…many ask me- haven’t you ever faced anybad situation in ur life? …I always say NO…… (Lucky ME) !!!



!!!! Right now busy with our own school, (daily getting dreams of it)…me with students, teachers, school building…etc…occupied the first half of the day, with the kitchen and then school…later half occupied with family, kid, Neil, his studies, blogging, yoga, walk and the rest as usual….!!!!

!!!!! Interested in similar natured people…who enjoy life like me (atleast my heart does that, if not I can, in practical conditions)… enjoy discussing things(hate arguments)....thinking….and have a balanced status of mind most of the time ( Agra se koi naata nahi mera)… Can continue talking for hours, and can keep myself at mute for hours tooo……hmmm ...Nice woman I am….!!!!!



!!!!!! the things which concern me are many…don’t want to go in deep….coz I know every one out here is concerned on the issues like corruption, population, poverty, illiteracy, sexual molestation, female infanticide ..the list goes on....next time I would wish to write about it in detail….but not now…coz it’s a Tag re about seven random things (and not on a single thought)….!!!!!!


!!!!!!! Lastly wish to get lots of blessings from you all, for me, family, profession, and whatever you wish to……So greedy …rite…..I have to be…as I have got the chance for the first time…and my Wishes Piggy Bank is always hungry for your wishes………….!!!!!!!

And passing on this trap to ----- BS, Jack Sir, Nipun, TC, Sorcerer, Rachna,And The Survivor......

(Me Relaxed now...huhhhhh!!!)...

OVER DEAR VARSHA…..Happy??…..

Tuesday, April 6, 2010



HURRAY..............



I have been AWARDED.......
For the FIRST TIME................
mY FIRST eVER aWARD..............




Thnx Varsh....for such a nice gesture on ur part.....and thnx to ur 50 posts old blog..that u thought of celebrating this moment by distributing awards to us...thnx..a LOT



Thnx Varsh ..............for 1ST.



2ND



3RD



Now this means more of good work,.......hmmmmmmmmmm......rite...









Monday, April 5, 2010

TELL ME FRANKLY


iS tHIS a mAN'S wORLD ????????????
iF YES, THEN y? iF nO, THEN wOW,,,,,dO U rEALLY fEEL sO?
?

Friday, April 2, 2010

Again a QUESTION...........PLZ ANS..............

DOES POSITIVE ATTITUDE REALLY HELP, OR IT’S JUST A CONSOLING WORD???